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Someone asked:

on April 8, 2025 6:04 pm

Hey Fumi, this is a question regarding law school and law in general. I figured I could ask you since you’re someone who’s in the field. How important is math in law, specifically statistics. I am taking one right now in my final year as an undergrad. I am struggling a little bit with that class, not because I’m dumb but because math is a little confusing to me sometimes and I get lost in the process. I kinda see math as a puzzle, which is interesting, and I am aware that math could help with critical thinking. Right now that stats class is getting the best of me, and making me rethink the intelligence I thought I had before taking that class. I just wanted to know how important it is in the broader aspects of law and law school, and how I can manage it. Thank you soooo much Fumi
Someone asked:

on March 31, 2025 4:48 pm

Dear Fumi, Thank you for the wisdom you kindly share on Instagram. In a recent video, you had mentioned that you prefer to play the long game when dealing with bullies and that you created a separate video on this topic. I can’t seem to find this video; Would you be open to resharing it or elaborating on how you employ practical strategies in dealing with bullies/haters?
Someone asked:

on February 10, 2025 1:10 pm

Hi Fumi, how do you feel being an attorney in this political climate? The uncertainty of the state of the country has piqued my interest in going to law school. Is this fruitless? Is this a good enough reason to go into extreme debt? Do you still think practicing law is worth it? Thank you
Someone asked:

on November 25, 2024 9:03 pm

I (girl in her 20’s) had a guy friend of several years recently suggest to me that maybe we should just get married one day because we are very compatible on paper; this marriage would be filled with respect, fidelity and companionship, but it would not be particularly romantic in nature, as he is not romantically interested in me. We would love each other but not be “in love” with each other. The suggestion kind of confused me; on one hand I understand his logic of how such a relationship would “make sense”. However, I cannot imagine a relationship as intimate as marriage (particularly one that includes children) not leading to some form of romantic connection. I also feel like the very suggestion implies he is settling; he has stated he thinks it’s too complicated and too risky to try to find someone who you are compatible with AND are “in love with”.—so he might as well settle for me. I know this may seem like a silly post since no one is forcing me to get married with him (so this shouldn’t even be a problem), but the whole interaction kind of led me to question: when intentionally pursuing marriage, how do you even quantify what love is? Is someone offering a stable, faithful relationship love even if the other person doesn’t associate it a “warm fuzzy feeling”? Is to be understood to be loved sufficiently?
Someone asked:

on September 22, 2024 9:49 pm

Dear Fumi, I really enjoyed your “Am I Ungrateful?” video, and I wanted to ask a long standing question that I’ve had, but wasn’t able to fully articulate before. You’ve mentioned before that the men in your life were very supportive of your decision to keep your standards high, and you’ve preached that it’s better to stay single than to have a man that doesn’t treat you well. I’ve found your content really helpful and insightful as a young woman, and I’m currently in a period of singleness, since I feel that it’s the best for me right now. One thing that I personally struggle with, and I’m sure most of your other followers struggle with too, is how to truly believe that you are deserving of high standards when you’ve been constantly let down by men in the past. In my journey, I realized that I had internalized certain behavior from men, and felt that I didn’t deserve anything better than that. I come from a single parent household, and my relationship history isn’t really the best. I’ve found that rocky relationships with men can cause mental barriers in what you feel that you deserve. Do you have any tips and tricks on removing those mental barriers after being let down by the men in your life, for example fathers, uncles, brothers, or exes. Some of the things that you’ve said previously have been really helpful, such as the time you said that the past doesn’t dictate what you can choose to expect now, but do you have any other strategies or insight to share about this? I love your videos, please keep making content <3 From Miss Working on Her Mindset
Someone asked:

on September 22, 2024 9:49 pm

Dear Fumi, I really enjoyed your “Am I Ungrateful?” video, and I wanted to ask a long standing question that I’ve had, but wasn’t able to fully articulate before. You’ve mentioned before that the men in your life were very supportive of your decision to keep your standards high, and you’ve preached that it’s better to stay single than to have a man that doesn’t treat you well. I’ve found your content really helpful and insightful as a young woman, and I’m currently in a period of singleness, since I feel that it’s the best for me right now. One thing that I personally struggle with, and I’m sure most of your other followers struggle with too, is how to truly believe that you are deserving of high standards when you’ve been constantly let down by men in the past. In my journey, I realized that I had internalized certain behavior from men, and felt that I didn’t deserve anything better than that. I come from a single parent household, and my relationship history isn’t really the best. I’ve found that rocky relationships with men can cause mental barriers in what you feel that you deserve. Do you have any tips and tricks on removing those mental barriers after being let down by the men in your life, for example fathers, uncles, brothers, or exes. Some of the things that you’ve said previously have been really helpful, such as the time you said that the past doesn’t dictate what you can choose to expect now, but do you have any other strategies or insight to share about this? I love your videos, please keep making content <3 From Miss Working on Her Mindset
Someone asked:

on September 19, 2024 1:03 pm

Dear Funmi, Hope you are well, my question is in regards to a talking stage timeline when it is long distance. Especially, when he is in the Army. I feel like I am making excuses for him..it feels like he likes me, but he does not like me enough. and I do not want to feel that way. Thank you!
Someone asked:

on September 19, 2024 9:58 am

Dear Fumi, I would like to ask you about your opinion on the honeymoon phase. I feel very discouraged when I hear people say that the passion usually starts to fade in a few months of being together and how they are not as excited to see their partner as they were before. Also some of my friends say that men only put in a lot of effort at the beginning of the relationship and that this behavior is supposed to be normal.
Someone asked:

on September 19, 2024 8:12 am

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Someone asked:

on July 16, 2024 10:29 pm

after 3 years im starting to like my boy best friend and i dont know how to make it something more.