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Someone asked:

on March 24, 2023 2:20 pm

Dear Fumi, I admire women, like you who always looks put together. Especially because it’s not an easy thing to do! How do you find the motivation to always look your best?
Someone asked:

on March 24, 2023 12:40 pm

Dear Funmi, There’s a guy in my life who seems to really like and pursue me. However, I’m not attracted to him (and by attraction, I don’t only mean physically. He just doesn’t inspire any form of like beyond friendship from me. I feel “meh” about him). I’m worried I’ll shortchange myself by giving him space because we like people who like us. I want to hold off and meet other people and strive for a relationship where we are both passionate about each other. I also feel it’s probably immature not to let love “grow”. Please, what do you think? Do I settle for someone who seems crazy about me and will treat me well, or wait? Thank you
Someone asked:

on March 24, 2023 11:04 am

Hi i am 22 years old. I was 19 when i was in a relationship that cost me a lot eversince then i met men who were not as great too. I realized when i watched your content, that the problem was me allowing all of this to happen.. I am wounded and shattered, left to pick up the pieces to restore myself. I want to get married in the near future but everytime i think of the pain i was in and currently in. I don’t know if its pain or fear but i avoid any relationships with men I want to work on it to establish relationship with myself and people… But i don’t know how to completely heal and forget the past What advice would you give to a 22 year old who believes love belongs to the few fortunate
Someone asked:

on March 24, 2023 7:41 am

Been together for 8 years. Hes amazing and treats me great. Always makes me a priority and hes commited to me. Im nearly 30 and hes 28, I want to get engaged now, he wants to get married too but maybe getting engaged already is a little too soon for him since hes younger.. i have pressured him (i told him i want to get engaged soon) and it seems hes planning on it but now i feel bad for nagging him and not waiting for him to do it on his own. Help please
Someone asked:

on March 24, 2023 5:39 am

I’m noticing a lot of men turning against women for women wanting a man who is a provider. I feel like living in a capitalistic society the pressure is on everyone to obsess over money. Do you think there is a way to support men here but also still be taken care of? How should women be treated? Do we split 50/50?
Someone asked:

on March 24, 2023 12:42 am

Firstly, I love you! Secondly, please may you touch on singleness more. Thank you for the reminders to be honest about our desire for romantic love, but what else can us single ladies do to enjoy instead of be so despondent during this era. For me personally, I’ve just never really had a serious relationship, how do I enjoy my life and not get so caught up in the “I’ll never find love, just like I’ve never truly had an amazing romantic love experience.” The girl is really struggling Fumz, please share whatever you think might help me get out of this funk, and continue to not settle, but to do so joyfully.
Someone asked:

on March 24, 2023 12:26 am

How do I stop taking a long time to get over relationships that did not serve me? How can I turn those emotions off? I feel like it always takes me way longer than the average person to get over painful breakups and even longer to move on. Hard to embrace the abundance mindset when your feelings are like “yeah there are plenty of fish in the sea, but I really want that one fish”
Someone asked:

on March 23, 2023 10:24 pm

Dear Funmi, This is not a question, and I hope I don’t waste your time, seeing as you definitely receive these a lot. I just want to say that I am so thankful I stumbled upon your page. I didn’t believe that the fulfilment of another’s calling could hinge upon the fulfillment of ours until I met you. I can say that I will become what I need to be because of you, among other influences. Hearing and witnessing you gave me the courage to walk away from a relationship and other situations that did not serve me. Thank you so much for your impact, and God bless you!
- Maha replied:
  
  on April 4, 2023 10:15 pm
  
  You have no idea how much this means to me. Thank you <3
Someone asked:

on March 23, 2023 9:17 pm

Why do men always try to invalidate your relationship or make you try to defend your relationship to them? Example: Said I had to get my oil changed after work and he chimes in “ohhh your husband doesn’t do that for you????” Like, I refuse to defend my relationship to a coworker.
Someone asked:

on March 23, 2023 8:59 pm

What are your thoughts on going through your boyfriend’s phone even if you don’t have reason to believe he’s cheating? I’ve seen women say they saw 0 red flags for years then went through the phone and he was cheating the whole time.