Hey! I just started dating someone this summer who will be moving 8 hours away for college (it’s his freshman year). Things are going really good rn. Do you have any advice for long distance relationships? It seems like all I hear about LDR is discouraging

Dear Fumi. My situation has me acting crazy. I’ve been dating a man for almost a year, and lived with him for 6 months. He’s a very great guy and treated me well. But there was something about his spirit that unsettled me I cannot pinpoint what it is. He seems to check all the boxes in being a loving and doting boyfriend, but sometimes I wonder where he really goes when he’s out hanging with his buddies. Anyway, we got into a fight and I packed my things and left. I was gone for two months and did everything in my power to erase his memory. I fasted, prayed, deleted all the pics. Sold his gifts aside from some perfume. Long story short, I ran in to him on my bday, and we ended up hooking up that night. He took me to a hotel, not his home. I later found out he had a woman already living with him. But the situation is insane. He came clean and said this girl was flying back to her country, but decided last minute to get off the plane and rush back to him. The situation really unsettled him and depressed him as that was never his intention with her. Now I cannot judge or blame what he did in my absence, but I respect that he came clean about the situation. What I don’t like is that we have been sneaking around just to see each other while this woman still occupies his home and searches for a place. She’s not a citizen and was here on a work visa so I get the situation . He knows I struggle with it and he’s struggling too, and even though o believe he’s being truthful, I cannot help but feel very unsettled in my stomach and just don’t know if I should stick it out or run. He’s an incredible man. When I am with him I am over the moon, and when I run, i always run back. He kept all my stuff that I left behind at his place such as gifts from vday and other personal things, and he said he never gave up on me. His actions show he loves me but something gives me anxiety and I don’t know if I’m crazy or is my body is telling me something .

Hello! Would love to hear your opinion on men who maintain close relationships with several of their ex-lovers. I’m told that he “owes” them a friendship after he was such an asshole to them. Since they extended him forgiveness…who better to be friends with then women who have seen him at his lowest? The man I’m dating has five of these ex-lovers and just says that I’m insecure.

Hey fumi I’ve seen alot of your content from YouTube and Instagram and your just that women that I aspire to be like and I need advice. When I met my now bf we started off as a friends w/benefits situation and a year later he wanted to make it serious. I said yes because on my side I wasn’t seeing anyone and from he told me he wasn’t either so I didn’t see the issue. It’s been great I met his family and and he met mines about 3 weeks ago. The curiosity got the better of me and I found out he’s been liking his exs photos on insta. He doesn’t know that I know. The part that hurt me was that she posted a photo the day after I met his family and he hearted it and it really hurt me. I would have easily brushed it off it wasn’t for the fact that it’s after I met his family. I don’t know what to do. I’m lost. He’s been great and I knew since the beginning that he would keep in contact with his ex because he said they didn’t end on bad terms, we’re adults I understand but after seeing that I question it now. Where do I go from here? I guess he didn’t cheat as far as I know but this really hurt me. He’s my first real relationship and this new to me I’d love to have some advice as the older sister that i and many of your followers see you as ❤️

Dear Fumi, how do I overcome the fear of being cheated on hence the fear of opening up fully and authentically?