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Someone asked:

on May 8, 2023 5:49 pm

Your Questions Hey, feeling really terrible, I don’t believe in cheating, it’s against my principles as a person, however, I visited a friend of mine and got into a compromised situation, he offered to eat me out, and I declined, but then I could tell and he too that I actually thought about it, not wanting to do it, but I thought about the offer, it was a weird and really awkward and inappropriate encounter, there was a massage before, I am in a relationship, on third year and nine months when this happened, I didn’t think much of it then, told my boyfriend about it, but i feel like I’m not trust worthy as a result of even being in that situation, and I generally feel like a cheater and it has me feeling like I failed myself because cheating is shitty. I don’t know the question to ask yet, but I am really struggling with that thought and the part of my standards being breached or broken and I’m having a hard time moving on or even reconciling between those parts of me. There’s shame too, coming up, feeling of unworthiness when the subject comes up anywhere even on social, cheating. What do I do?
Someone asked:

on May 8, 2023 5:48 pm

Hey, feeling really terrible, I don’t believe in cheating, it’s against my principles as a person, however, I visited a friend of mine and got into a compromised situation, he offered to eat me out, and I declined, but then I could tell and he too that I actually thought about it, not wanting to do it, but I thought about the offer, it was a weird and really awkward and inappropriate encounter, there was a massage before, I am in a relationship, on third year and nine months when this happened, I didn’t think much of it then, told my boyfriend about it, but i feel like I’m not trust worthy as a result of even being in that situation, and I generally feel like a cheater and it has me feeling like I failed myself because cheating is shitty. I don’t know the question to ask yet, but I am really struggling with that thought and the part of my standards being breached or broken and I’m having a hard time moving on or even reconciling between those parts of me. There’s shame too, coming up, feeling of unworthiness when the subject comes up anywhere even on social, cheating. What do I do?
Someone asked:

on May 8, 2023 5:46 pm

Hey, feeling really terrible, I don’t believe in cheating, it’s against my principles as a person, however, I visited a friend of mine and got into a compromised situation, he offered to eat me out, and I declined, but then I could tell and he too that I actually thought about it, not wanting to do it, but I thought about the offer, it was a weird and really awkward and inappropriate encounter, there was a massage before, I am in a relationship, on third year and nine months when this happened, I didn’t think much of it then, told my boyfriend about it, but i feel like I’m not trust worthy as a result of even being in that situation, and I generally feel like a cheater and it has me feeling like I failed myself because cheating is shitty. I don’t know the question to ask yet, but I am really struggling with that thought and the part of my standards being breached or broken and I’m having a hard time moving on or even reconciling between those parts of me. There’s shame too, coming up, feeling of unworthiness when the subject comes up anywhere even on social, cheating. What do I do?
Someone asked:

on May 8, 2023 5:45 pm

Hey, feeling really terrible, I don’t believe in cheating, it’s against my principles as a person, however, I visited a friend of mine and got into a compromised situation, he offered to eat me out, and I declined, but then I could tell and he too that I actually thought about it, not wanting to do it, but I thought about the offer, it was a weird and really awkward and inappropriate encounter, there was a massage before, I am in a relationship, on third year and nine months when this happened, I didn’t think much of it then, told my boyfriend about it, but i feel like I’m not trust worthy as a result of even being in that situation, and I generally feel like a cheater and it has me feeling like I failed myself because cheating is shitty. I don’t know the question to ask yet, but I am really struggling with that thought and the part of my standards being breached or broken and I’m having a hard time moving on or even reconciling between those parts of me. There’s shame too, coming up, feeling of unworthiness when the subject comes up anywhere even on social, cheating. What do I do?
Someone asked:

on May 8, 2023 5:45 pm

Hey, feeling really terrible, I don’t believe in cheating, it’s against my principles as a person, however, I visited a friend of mine and got into a compromised situation, he offered to eat me out, and I declined, but then I could tell and he too that I actually thought about it, not wanting to do it, but I thought about the offer, it was a weird and really awkward and inappropriate encounter, there was a massage before, I am in a relationship, on third year and nine months when this happened, I didn’t think much of it then, told my boyfriend about it, but i feel like I’m not trust worthy as a result of even being in that situation, and I generally feel like a cheater and it has me feeling like I failed myself because cheating is shitty. I don’t know the question to ask yet, but I am really struggling with that thought and the part of my standards being breached or broken and I’m having a hard time moving on or even reconciling between those parts of me. There’s shame too, coming up, feeling of unworthiness when the subject comes up anywhere even on social, cheating. What do I do?
Someone asked:

on May 8, 2023 2:00 pm

I’m 18, I’m very indépendant and not afraid to share what I think and behave the way I see fit. I’m not disrespectful but I was raised by a very strong woman and opinionated father so I know how to defend myself and make my own life satisfactory. I find I’m only being pursued by men in relationships. I’m not moving toward them or showing interest after I discover they have have a partner but they don’t stop after that. I have a hard time trusting men now and anyone who pursues me in fear they will either cheat or end up having a girlfriend.
Someone asked:

on May 8, 2023 1:56 pm

Have you ever acted out of character & told a guy you liked him & initiated talking to him repeatedly yourself?
Someone asked:

on May 8, 2023 12:44 pm

What do you think about online dating? Do you find any dating apps worthwhile to try?
Someone asked:

on May 8, 2023 11:50 am

How do you deal with Envy as a Christian and you know you do not want to feel that way
Someone asked:

on May 8, 2023 11:40 am

Hi Fumi, I am in a very loving relationship, my bf is obsessed with me, gives me princess treatment, suddenly he says he wants to try threesomes, wants to become a porn star, stripper, only fans etc(I said to exclude me from threesomes) I got angry, he said it was just a thought and he will not act on it.