Hi Fumi, thanks for doing this. I value your perspective❤️ I dated this guy for 2 years, we stayed in the same city for one, then LDR for the other one. The major issue in the relationship was conflict resolution, it was always an emotional rollercoaster. We intended on getting married so we started taking pre-marital classes. I was honestly transformed by the teachings cos I could see my wrongs and the things I need to start doing in other to be a good wife to him. Long story cut short, He broke up with me after the counseling and not one of his friends or his family members that stay in the same city with me, reached out to me even tho they were all aware of how invested we were. It’s been a few months now and I’m trying to heal, but I can’t shake the fact that he probably met someone new abroad and decided to cut me loose now that he’s away from me. Plus his family/friends that I was extremely involved with, not saying a word to me but taking the back door hurts a bit more. How can I let go of all this hurt and betrayal and move on? Thank you.

Hello Fumi, I have been dating a guy since 2019(Long Distance). He is an extreme introvert,only talks to me, doesn’t follow half naked women on Instagram, he listens to me , he does everything but the only problem is he is emotionally unavailable, not a problem solver. I be crying my heart out and ask him to talk but he doesn’t give a fuck. I have been asking him to save the relationship and solve our problems for 3 years and he seems to be ignorant. I don’t know what to do:( He says he loves me(Everyday)but whenever I try to bring a conversation which is hurting me in the relationship he becomes silent. So, I asked him about this and he said I’m not like others I don’t know how to solve these things but I promise to make you feel safe and happy whenever I’m with you. He asked me to question if I ever feel this way after we started living together. He came from a dysfunctional family where there parents are so much controlling. I don’t know what to do I’m stuck. I gave him three years to change, but I don’t feel like waiting anymore… Help me out plsssss

Dear Fumi, when it comes to women who didn’t grow up with their fathers, what would your description of unconditional love be? What are they to look for in the dating scene that is a representation of that unconditional love?

I am married to a wonderful guy, but he does not pay enough attention to me. We got together in college and we have had an amazing life together. But I feel like he could do much more in terms of being emotionally supportive, understanding, empathetic etc. He would rather stare at his phone (on SM) than engage in conversation with me. I don’t nag, I just need him to be present, because it happens all the time. Not sure if I’m the one expecting too much, but that’s pretty much it. We go 50:50 shares expenses and I pay for my own expenses. I feel unloved, so I have brought it up kindly on multiple occasions but yet to see a change. How do I figure this out?

I have an unrelated question. I grew up in a religious and loving family, and we uphold the standards of no dating around till considering marriage/ready for a serious relationship. I’ve branched really well into my interests, hobbies, and career over time. And I’ve never dated. I didn’t really interact much with guys growing up either (I’ve just never felt the urge to. My female friendships were very fulfilling and I have a really good head on my shoulder lol) I’m starting to feel ready now, but I’m afraid when I do start dating, it’s gonna end up badly and I’m gonna lowball it. Do you have a series of posts explaining how to introduce yourself to the dating world? For beginners? Very inexperienced, very new beginners. And what to strengthen in yourself when dealing with typical characteristics + what to possibly expect? Coaching isn’t something I want to invest in yet and I wanted to ask if you catered to the demographic I mentioned above (if so, can you link example blogs, and posts ?).