Dear Fumi, What do you think is the best thing to do? A few years ago, a friend of mine let me know he had feelings for me and would like a relationship with me. He knew my stance on relationships at the time and the fact that I wasn’t going to be open to the idea till my 20’s{we were 16 at the time} and so he told me he was going to wait(I never asked him to, it was all him) after a while I started having feelings for him too which he got to know about I was still firm on my choice of not being in a relationship in my teens regardless and I made sure I set a boundary of ensuring we remain platonic until the waiting period was over.(which was last year) The important conversations were had and questions were asked regardless so I knew exactly where we were headed and what his intentions were. I felt secure and we continued our friendship. There were also random days where he would let me know he’s still in on everything and really desires to be with me even without me asking About seven months ago I got to find out he lost his feelings for me and of course that broke me. What made it worse is I got to know cause I asked and not cause he decided to let me know. I asked just cause I felt something was off. He let me know he would love for us to continue our friendship without anything changing and apologized for not letting me know when everything changed. Ever since we’ve carried on Like nothing happened especially because we ensured we never drifted away from the platonic side so everything continued seamlessly. So I really just want to know if it makes sense to keep it going since we were never a thing in the first place and stayed as friends or I should cut him off? Plus I still really like him

Dear Fumi, 2 years into a relationship, I find out most of his Instagram following is women, models, not that big of a deal but then is OF models too. What do I do? Everything of him is great but this is something I always said I would never tolerate but it’s hard on how or what decision to take

Dear Fumi, What are your thoughts on the ladies that state that they want a man that keeps them in their feminine energy but also advocate for gender equality? I.e. they state a man should be masculine and pay for everything and provide but also gender equality and progressivism where a man should be more emotional and should take paternity leave and tend the house and so on and so forth. Also how can I as a man contend with the conflicting dating advice targeted towards me? Either I’m a sack of filth and the reason the bar is hell or I am a whole human being that deserves to be treated just as fairly as women. Either Im an alpha that needs to hunt or I’m a victim of female cruelty or whatever. So much conflicting advice for me that usually is delivered in a very hostile tone I.e Chris Perry or Andrew Tate.

Dear Fumi, You’ve touched on distancing oneself from friends who keep toxic men around or setting a boundary with friends who vent about them constantly, but I was wondering what your advice is for women whose parents don’t have the healthiest dynamics but are economically unable yet to move out from home. Or when they’ve moved out, they must keep contact for the sake of their mother ‘cause it’s the father who’s okay in some ways but has red flags and is unwilling to change. All I have for now to keep me hopeful are your content and fiction that feature healthy relationships, as well as content of random people I see online who have healthy relationships. Thank you for opening my mind up to what’s possible!

I just turned 31 and feel like I met the man of my dreams, he meets everything on my list except for consistency, he works a lot and goes to school full time, I try to be understanding but to hear from someone once or twice a week if I’m lucky is pretty aggravating. He recently came out of a relationship with someone he been with since they were in high school a couple months ago, he wants us to be friends first and take things slow. I want to proceed but deep down feel like I should give him time to focus on his self and leave him alone. I’m afraid it turns into a situation-ship and I waste my time on the wrong person.. what are your thoughts?