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Someone asked:

on August 26, 2023 12:19 pm

Hi i hope you are doing well Do you think that making the first step ( like adding them on instagram ) will drive to a toxic onesided relationship?
Someone asked:

on August 23, 2023 2:02 am

Helo Fumi, I had arguments with my boyfriend regarding him keeping contacting his ex which he said he has stopped. Asked him to block the lady if she is trouble. In btn arguments I am the one who got blocked instead.
Someone asked:

on August 23, 2023 2:01 am

Helo Fumi, I had arguments with my boyfriend regarding him keeping contacting his ex which he said he has stopped. Asked him to block the lady if she is trouble. In btn arguments I am the one who got blocked instead.
Someone asked:

on August 22, 2023 11:46 pm

Hey, I have recently begun talking with a man who is everything I look for in a partner. One of the biggest pros is the fact that he is very open and honest to the point where I know almost everything about his past, even about when he ghosted a girl. He told me about how he wasn’t ready for a relationship then and the ghosting happened just before he met me. Almost everything else about him is good and right for me but I wanted to know if I should continue to keep my guard up and evaluate him. Or is the fact that he has ghosted someone a red flag?
Someone asked:

on August 19, 2023 8:40 pm

I met a man when he was “not looking for anything” and was “unsure he ever wanted to be married”. I very quickly established that I am not looking for a casual relationship. However, we have amazing conversations about faith and always have fun around each other. After a couple of months I realized I had let boundaries slip and that while I was romantically interested in him, I had to clarify. So I very clearly said to him that we would not be spending so much time together as it has led to boundaries being crossed- and while he is a wonderful man I do not want to pursue anything romantic with him. I explained that I date to marry, and he is unsure he wants marriage or kids. He said that he respects that decision and that he would like to take some time to think. I then left town for a couple of days to spend some time away and gain clarity. A couple days later, he called and said that he has come to the conclusion that he started saying he “unsure he wants to be married” after he and his long term ex ended things, because of fear. He apologized for not having clear intentions from the start and said that he could absolutely see himself marrying me. He has asked to take me on dates and wants to do so with the intention of marriage. Should I allow him to?
Someone asked:

on August 12, 2023 9:14 am

My new boyfriend brought me to TwinPeaks (similar to hooters) and it made me upset and now he’s mad at me. How do you feel about men who go to these “breastraunts”
Someone asked:

on August 5, 2023 5:56 pm

Hi, I am really scared to date right now. The amount of men who are turning to redpill is actually making me question love and intimacy. These guys want a maid and not a partner. How can I find a diamond in the rough?
Someone asked:

on July 17, 2023 4:03 pm

I started my prodcast not to long ago and I need tips and how to bring more people to listen your broadcast?
Someone asked:

on July 17, 2023 12:55 am

Hello, I dated a Muslim guy and knew this was wrong according to his religion. He did what he could to let his family know about me but they refused to accept me. We stayed together anyway for about 2 or so years. Within these 2 years he wast Prince Charming. He was great! He didn’t try as much as he used to to get his family’s acceptance but he still did try. Well, I got pregnant and kept the baby. He immediately turned into a monster, along with them. He wanted nothing to do with the baby. I decided to keep the baby and cut him off; he decided to come back and take full responsibility. He’s a great father! We are not married though and he refers to me as his “wife”. I hear your teachings and agree with you 100%! At this point though, I feel like I can’t leave because I don’t want my son to be raised in a broken home. However, I am a good woman and deserve much more! How can I set a standard at this point? It’s hard not to be taken for granted when I have to cook and clean FOR my son and my boyfriend reaps the benefits. How do I put a stop? PLEASE HELP. Also, his Muslim family has constantly bullied me and regardless of the situation he sides with them. Even though he does give me some type of credit, THEY are the right ones every time. I am so sick of this! Please help me! Any advice helps. Thank you!
Someone asked:

on July 17, 2023 12:54 am

Hello, I dated a Muslim guy and knew this was wrong according to his religion. He did what he could to let his family know about me but they refused to accept me. We stayed together anyway for about 2 or so years. Within these 2 years he wast Prince Charming. He was great! He didn’t try as much as he used to to get his family’s acceptance but he still did try. Well, I got pregnant and kept the baby. He immediately turned into a monster, along with them. He wanted nothing to do with the baby. I decided to keep the baby and cut him off; he decided to come back and take full responsibility. He’s a great father! We are not married though and he refers to me as his “wife”. I hear your teachings and agree with you 100%! At this point though, I feel like I can’t leave because I don’t want my son to be raised in a broken home. However, I am a good woman and deserve much more! How can I set a standard at this point? It’s hard not to be taken for granted when I have to cook and clean FOR my son and my boyfriend reaps the benefits. How do I put a stop? PLEASE HELP. Also, his Muslim family has constantly bullied me and regardless of the situation he sides with them. Even though he does give me some type of credit, THEY are the right ones every time. I am so sick of this! Please help me! Any advice helps. Thank you!